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| City: | Boston |
| State: | Massachusetts |
| Country: | United States |
General Info
| NickName: | PigtopBA |
| Status: | Offline | Age: | 50 |
Profile
| Headline: | Pig top seeking a true pig bttm |
| Description: | Vers, pierced hog, bearded. Into aggressive play, fluids (spit/sweat/piss/cum), ripe pits, musty jocks, cigars, leather, boots. Pig stuff. PSA: I have generously elected to provide, free of charge, a couple of educational exercises for those not particularly inclined toward introspection, social dynamics, laughable irony, or etymology. Let's begin by defining some terms so that we're all working from the same vocabulary: Top: the one with tab A that goes in slot B, and who very much prefers things to be this way Bottom: the one with slot B that receives tab A, and who very much prefers things to be this way Versatile: sacred possessor of both tabs and slots, coupled with a willingness to take advantage of both wherever possible. Straightforward as these definitions may seem to be, there yet exists a great deal of confusion surrounding to whom these labels accurately apply. Our first exercise will be to read a quote from a fellow pig, and to determine whether the pig is the role they claim to be. 1: "I'm a top that is curious to try bottoming. For apparently every guy I talk to online." Is he a top, or not-a-top? 2: "I top, too! I'm serious! I mean, I have tried it, at least! Well, partially -- he kind of held me down in place and sat on it before I could object." Is he versatile, or not versatile? 3: "I'm vers except when I -- then I'm strictly bottom. And I whenever I hook up." Is he versatile, or not versatile? Answers(no peeking ahead and cheating, now!): 1) Not a top 2) Not versatile 3) Not versatile Whew! So how did you do on our first activity? Let's see if we can improve things during activity two. The topic: power exchange!!! And once again, let's begin with terminology: Dom: Dude in charge whose wishes and desires are given priority, and whose word is obeyed (except when rebelliousness and its consequences appeases the Dom). The Dom, though his wishes and desires take precedence, has as his primary responsibility the welfare of his Sub.While limits may be pushed and stretched (some would argue that this is the very point of power exchange), the trust and faith placed in the Dom by the sub is to be honored and nurtured. sub: the one who shifts focus away from his own wishes, desires, fears, and neurosis, channeling the vast amount of time and energy that this release affords him into prioritizing obeying and pleasing his Dom. The sub knows that all he need do is anticipate his Dom's desires, and his own needs (and likely wants, too) will be met. When done properly, being a sub is a leap of faith, and not something for the wishy-washy or faint-of-heart to be even considering. Switch: a pig capable of assuming either mindset, and even switch between them during a session, as the situation calls for. Alright -- quiz time! Same activity as before, but now regarding power exchange! 1: "I'm a dom. I usually end up topping when we play, because that's what my playmates prefer me to do." Is he a Dom, or not-a-Dom? 2: "I top, I bottom, I flip back and forth during a session. I'm a Switch." Switch or not-a-switch? 3: "I'm a sub. I want you to call me &*$()# and spit on me, make me gag on your cock, fuck me and cum in my hole, then I want you to order me to service your buddies that you presumably have hanging out in the other room at all times. I'll decide later what should happen after that." sub or not-a-sub? Now the answers: 1: Not a Dom! Being a top most of the time does not make you a Dom, especially when you're doing it to appease your partner. That's more inline with being a sub, if it even qualifies at all as power exchange. 2: Not a switch! There is no element of power exchange described here -- he is describing being versatile, rather than being a switch. 3: Definitely, definitely not a sub. Ordering somebody what to do and say, catering the whole scene to appease your own desires? Yeah -- that's closer to Dom behavior, but a shitty attempt at it since you're not taking care of your sub's needs and wants. I get a half dozen or more propositions that match this on a weekly basis, and the would-be-subs seem blithely unaware of the ridiculous irony of what they are proposing. So how did you do? Hopefully that got at least a few people straightened out. But in case it didn't, be forewarned: I am a switch, and will gladly play Dom to your sub. But if your version of being a sub is dictating the order of events, I will consider it my solemn responsibility to disabuse you of that expectation. You will learn what being a sub truly entails, and in exchange, I will take care of your needs (if not your wants) -- which in this case means giving you at least an iota of self-awareness. |
| Ethnicity: | Black |
| Height: | 6'0" - 6'3" (181-190cm) |
| Weight: | 160-169 Lbs (73-76 Kgs) |
| Build: | Athletic |
| Body Hair: | Average |
| Cock: | Huge - Cut |
| HIV Status: | Don't Care |
| Drink: | Often |
| Drugs: | Yes |
| Smoker: | Often |
| Position: | Anything Goes |
| Tags: | Top Admin |
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